No matter who you are, where you are and what you do in life, no one, absolutely no one has the right to disrespect you. Read that again.
You matter, yes, you do. You are important and valuable. If someone is treating you like shit and you don’t deserve it, please please don’t keep quiet. Make sure you speak up.
Keep your head up high even if your job is to carry the garbage to the bin or to clean the table at the restaurant because you’re just doing your job for money. Don’t have to feel ashamed for it. No, please don’t. No one has the right to treat you shitty for it.
If you are not being valued at home. Communicate and make it clear that you want and expect respect even if it means that you have to repeat the message for it to sink in. If like me you don’t have a choice but to be in a situation that you’d rather not and you feel stuck. It’s okay, things are not always going to be the same forever because the change starts from you. Just speak up and set expectations on how you want to be treated.
I end up feeling guilty every time I speak up. I don’t know why I’m built that way. I will end up saying sorry for speaking up if I stay in that situation any longer. I’m trying hard not to apologize for things like that because sometimes it is absolutely necessary to speak up and tell people how you feel because what I’ve learnt from experience is, people won’t know how you feel unless you communicate.
If no matter how many times you communicate the same thing and the message is still not heard, maybe it’s time to leave the place or the meeting or that person. Sometimes little bit distance and silence can help the message to be heard better and sink in.
But please don’t stay quiet when you can use your voice. The way you put across your point also matter, the words you use and your tone. If it’s been going on from years and years, shouting is okay is what I feel but I wouldn’t know. Snap when you have to, it’s okay.
rachana rajan <3 