(from Harry’s POV)
I dated a man last year, let’s call him deepak gs. He doesn’t know anything about dating, that’s what I have concluded after talking to him.
He kept talking continuously for one month without asking me a single question about anything. He would keep talking. Everything was about him and his things. On top of that, he couldn’t even frame a single coherent sentence but I ignored that because I’m not good at talking either. But the worst part is that he can’t read a single sentence coherently too and he calls himself a reader and he buys book just for the sake of it, which disturbed me. He used to keep repeating “kiss me” like a parrot and he even said if I don’t kiss him, he will end things with me, which was quite disturbing because I wasn’t attracted to him.
I met a friend while dating him and he started fighting with me for it and he accused me of dating others when I repeated many times he is a friend. He even said that he wanted to know my friend’s name because he wants to text him on LinkedIn and ask him if he met me. I completely lost it and shouted at him saying everything is always about him and he doesn’t ask me anything and he said it’s because he is successful and I’m not and I blocked him.
We got back in touch last month because I was looking for a friend. When I met him, he said he wants to marry me because his best friend got married and he is bored and he is not meeting anyone else. Also, that he loves me. (I honestly don’t think thats love) He expects me to marry him because he traveled 40 kms to meet me and he kept boasting about that. He even asked me if I wanted to marry him because he has money and I completely lost it and blocked him again.
I was so disturbed after that incident.
There was another man whom I met in my apartment, let’s call him rahuul rishav. We met as friends to go to the bookstore. After that we started talking and he invited me to his house and I went because he is my friend. He said he wants to hug and I let him and he suddenly started kissing me without my consent. I couldn’t stop him no matter how much I pushed. I was really sick at that time and I was not interested in anything. Finally somehow I made him to stop and came back home.
After that he kept texting me asking me to go to his house continuously. Finally I blocked him and I confronted him recently and he was under the delusion that we were dating and liked each other. I’m really not sure what was wrong with him because I have never used the word date or even said I liked him.
This incident disturbed me too.
No matter how many men I meet or talk to everyone just wants to fuck and nothing else. Everything is always about sex and nothing else which turns me off like crazy.
I’m so damn fed up by now that I don’t care about dating anymore.
I’m so not interested in these things or even to make friends anymore.
I’m just lost these days.
rachana rajan <3 