It took me a life time to learn this.
If you are friends with someone and they say something inappropriate or hurt you intentionally or does something against what you believe in and your values, there is absolutely nothing wrong in cutting ties with that person.
It doesn’t matter even if you have a history or they are your friend of 10 years or even if you have some good memories together in the past. Just these reasons are not sufficient to take disrespect.
At the end of the day the choice is yours and its upto you to take care of yourself. You don’t owe anyone anything. Don’t have to feel guilty to take this decision.
Respect should be present in every relationship, whether that is friendship or romantic relationship or family. If there is no respect and you are even taken for granted, it’s completely okay to leave and cut ties.
I try communicating before I take the decision to leave always because I always value relationships. But if the communication isn’t leading anywhere and the person refuses to change, I cut them off.
I’m the kinda person who confronts and clarify things when there is a misunderstanding, I never intentionally hurt people. But if the other person lacks that and hurts me intentionally when I have nothing but loved them, I hurt them back because it goes against my values.
If the person caused severe intense trauma, I give them back the same trauma (verbally) before I say goodbye.
With my family I have no choice but to stay in the situation because of money constraints and every day is a compromise. So I try my best to find solutions for the cards I’m given.
Why do humans hurt each other?
God might worry and humans don’t have an answer to it.
I’ve seen glimpses of God in some and glimpses of Satan in others.
Some people deserve the hurt and others don’t.
Hurt is inevitable though, we just have to find ways around it and learn to cope, accept and face what life throws at us.
No matter what causes the accident, the choice is ours if we want to sit on the road and cry forever or get up and say, “So this happened and what should I do now?”
Even if the doctor tells you, you have just 10 days to live (I really hope he doesn’t but hypothetically if he does), the choice is yours if you want to cry for those 10 days or make the best of the time.
’cause if you think about it, life is unpredictable and fleeting and we don’t really know if we have 10 days or 50 years, so shouldn’t we make the best of each day anyway?
Why should we let a random person who doesn’t value us enough to treat us right to consume our mind and destrupt that day?
Cut them off please?
Dont let being alone scare you if that’s what’s stopping you.
Enjoy the solitude and keep God close to you.
rachana rajan <3 