rachana rajan <3

Mistakes.

We’ve all made them.

Some mistakes are irreversible, there is no going back from there.

(I’ve already spoken about it.)

Like rape and killing people, assualt. I saw reels were people cry after they make these mistakes and they repent.

What I feel about this is, when you know you are going to regret it after you do it, why are you doing it?

There are so many problems and suffering already in this world.

These man made problems and cruelty can be avoided if they just stop for a minute and make better judgements.

To quote sirius, the world is not split into good and death eaters, we have both light and dark inside of us. What matters is what we choose to act on.

I see so much good in people who have hurt me, they don’t realise or see it themselves.

We should always amplify the good in us. Constantly work on the bad in us and grow and change.

Also, think about all the possible consequences before we do something.

Am I doing the right thing?

Is it morally correct?

Am I going to repent for the rest of my life because of this few seconds of weakness?

You need to think about everything and do the right thing.

I encourage people to overthink because sometimes overthinking isn’t bad at all.

If you are angry, you need to find ways to heal your anger and channelize it in a healthy way.

Other mistakes, which are quite silly and irrational that doesn’t cause much harm are reversible.

By taking accountability and apologizing and mending it with kind words.

By making an effort to change.

By saying, yes I messed up and I feel awful about it. Showing empathy towards the person whom you hurt and did wrong to.

When you know you’ve made a mistake and that person confronts you, you should have the ability to be present in the situation and apologize, instead of villanizing them and hurting them again for confronting.

What I’ve seen in the past is, the minute you confront someone’s mistake, they push you away.

You should have grace, not ego.

You should show compassion towards yourself and the one whom you hurt.

This my friend will mend so many broken relationships.

It’s okay if you have made these reversible mistakes, don’t be so hard on yourself.

Amplify the good in you.

Say sorry and accept that you were wrong. This doesn’t make you less of a person but infact it makes you attractive and kind.

So many people I knew in the past lacks this. That’s why they are in the past.

I don’t know if they have changed now. No one has reached out to apologise for the harm they caused me, so I guess they don’t care and neither do I.

Don’t allow everyone in your life. Always keep a safe distance.

Friend, family, found family, relationship. These are valuable things. Don’t give it to anyone who comes your way or you speak to.

Take your time to build that trust and see if that person matches your frequency.

What I’ve realised is, men just say I love you without thinking much. So many men have said that to me, most of the time I don’t feel that love and it is just meaningless words because it doesn’t reflect in the way they behave.

I was stupid before, now I’m not.

I take time and notice everything. I’m able to make better judgements for myself now. Also, I just know it if that person is my person when I spend time with them.

Choosing a life partner is a huge decision. I’m happy alone, so I can compromise that alone time only if that person is worth it.

I don’t believe in fucking as well. I want to make love because sex is a huge deal for me. I feel like doing it only when I’m in love.

It’s kinda sad that I haven’t experienced it though.

I hated it the only time I did it because there was no love and I don’t see the fuss, tbh.

(I think I’m repeating myself, sorry.)

My body and kisses are precious. I won’t just give it to anyone. They have to be worthy of it.

I regret doing things in the past because I was stupid but now that I’m older, I can live without being physical and kissing someone and I don’t crave for it unless I’m in love.