rachana rajan <3

I feel after years pass and you keep exposing yourself to new experiences and meet new people and also after you heal, things that happened in the past seem irrelevant.

You can let it go and move on from something like abuse, domestic violence, someone sabotaging your life and rape even.

With every experience comes a learning.

I feel you should just have the courage to make new experiences and meet new people and go to new places, do things you like.

The more you expose yourself to new experiences, the experiences that you had in the past looses it’s hold on you.

You can’t sit with that experience forever and sulk. You can’t let these bad experiences be the only chapter in your life.

The choice is yours to write new chapters. It’s your book of life, you get to choose what you do and what path you take.

Once you have this new experiences which restores your faith in humanity again, you will reach the point where the baggage is no longer with you.

Sometimes your body or mind might feel uneasy when you remember things because memories have a way of coming back at the most unexpected of times, you should find ways to heal the feeling and say, I’m so much bigger than the experience.

Everyone in this world are superheros fighting a battle almost everyday even, you can’t let Thanos win. Here Thanos is inside you as a bad thought or memory. You have to defeat him.

Somedays it’s okay to just be on bed and drink hot chocolate too.

There is so much going on, don’t be so hard on yourself for doing that.

Try not to think about the bad stuff. If you stop thinking about it and when new memories add on, it gets easier by the day.

Relive the good memories and cherish them. Surround yourself with positivity.

Also, people grow and change. The person who did you wrong might be a totally different person now and might even be repenting.

Once you heal, it’s really okay to forgive depending on the person and what harm they caused.

Forgiving is a verb. You might have to do it again and again when the thought crosses your mind.

It’s easier to forgive after you heal.

So please heal first, then comes everything else.

This is what I do.