rachana rajan <3

This is going to sting and cause chaos but I’m going to say it anyway.

I’m going to stand on a neutral ground and address this, I’m not going to pick a side.

So here goes.

Stop labeling people and putting them in a box.

Yes.

Unless there was a serious offence committed by this person like murder or something inhuman.

I feel we can cut some slack and allow space for growth and change.

All of us carry so much anger inside us for something that a person did to us in the past and we carry it within us like forever.

Some take it to their death bed.

I vowed to be one of them too. So yeah I get you.

But upon further reflection and consideration, I feel this is what the society does.

We label people and put them in particular boxes according to their xyz behaviour.

And the people in these boxes accept the label and say yes, this is who I am and continue the behaviour because yes, they have accepted the label.

Even if deep down, that person’s consciousness is screaming standing down the mountain and the voice is so feeble from up because the voices of society is louder.

So this person continue down this path without a second thought ignoring his consciousness screaming otherwise.

So yes Susan, uncle Bill did that you and it was terrible.

I understand.

But show some grace and stop bringing up what Uncle Bill did to you 10 years ago because you can’t forget it.

When Uncle Bill is repenting and hurting inside and trying his best each day.

Stop putting him in a box, Susan.

Stop talking about something that happened in the cold winters of 1991.

You aren’t so perfect yourself, so for the love of God stop replaying it in your head again and again and again.

Talk to a professional and repeat it to that person 100 times and the 101th time will be your saturation point and then you will say, “Does it even matter?”

Channelize your anger in a healthy way.

Also, if you don’t want to forgive, you don’t have to.

But stop throwing anger on someone else.

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In my case, it happened recently and I went through serious hell because of this person.

I don’t talk about things for too long as well.

My retaliations are 20% of the suffering.

And people hurt me for it which is quite irrational and unfair because people completely ignore my suffering.

My retaliations are justified, tbh.

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But the thing with me is, I don’t stay stuck.

I worked on it and moved on.

Some of them are dead to me.

So you should probably do the same.

Just let it go. Forget them.

They are in a different universe now.

Stop obsessing and being angry and spoiling your mood over it.

Stop carrying so much hate in you.

Throw them in a different universe and become indifferent.

Focus on yourself and your growth, goals and everything that’s good.

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As for Uncle Bill.

You should listen to your consciousness and take action to change.

Don’t let the world place you in a box and label you.

Fuck label.

Don’t conform yourself in that tiny box.

It’s too fucking dark and shady in there.

Get out.

Change the narrative.

It’s never too late to do the right thing and introduce some plot twists.

I see you and I know you are trying your best.

So yeah, I’m rooting for you Uncle Bill.

And also, you should probably apologize to Susan. That might lift the weight you are carrying off your chest.

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I’m on a neutral ground here.

This is what I observed, so I’m addressing it.

Make of this whatever you want to.