rachana rajan <3

I feel when you speak to someone, you need not have common interests to connect with them.

I usually connect with people who are easy to talk to, who understands me and my way of speaking, someone who can hold a conversation and most importantly, both of us should be interested to keep the conversation going in a flow.

We could be speaking about something as silly as cookies and we can still connect.

And the more you speak to each other and the conversation flows like water, the bond builds organically.

Also, how you handle conflicts and misunderstandings, like I mentioned previously, also comes into picture.

This is crucial.

And mutual respect for boundaries and space is important too.

The ability to empathize plays a crucial role too.

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From what I have observed, most people in my past don’t know how to hold a conversation or even empathize or anything of that sort.

They start dumping toxic shit the minute you start speaking and the conversation becomes more of a monologue than a dialogue.

It starts getting overwhelming as shit in such cases.

Because when you speak, the conversation should be engaging and a dialogue between two people who are speaking.

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This is what I have observed from my experience.

I have nothing much in common with my mother and sister but we still connect well.

We did have problems because of the shit that happened to us.

I’m ignoring that shit and saying this.