rachana rajan <3

Whenever you speak to someone,

You are not signing an invisible contract with them to stay forever and be their bestfriend.

You are entitled to the decision and choice to stop engaging with them,

If,

There is no respect on the table, there is no genuine love and care, they are extremely shady or creepy, your values don’t align, they don’t understand you or see you and so on.

Also,

They don’t have the ability to handle conflicts, misunderstandings and mistakes like a mature adult.

Nothing is permanent.

Things change, people change and grow.

When someone is not adding to your growth, bringing you down constantly, are competing with you and is jealous of you in a negative and toxic way.

You can and should disengage.

Because it’s your life and at the end of the day, it’s you who decide who stays and who doesn’t.

Based on the personal first hand experience you have with them.

You don’t owe anyone anything.

Disclaimer:

There is a healthy competition and jealousy and an unhealthy one.

I’m aware that these are valid emotions.

So I’m not judging anyone.

But you should know how to regulate these emotions and not cause any harm to an another person by projecting these emotions on them.