rachana rajan <3

Billions of people in this world.

You are going to meet so many people in your lifetime.

Like so many.

Don’t break your head for casual temporary people.

Unless there is something meaningful there, learn to keep it casual.

Meaning, don’t get attached.

If you can learn the art of keeping it casual, it can work wonders and avoid unnecessary pain.

I learnt this by dating casually. As I mentioned previously.

I was able to get over my abandonment and attachment issues that started because of what happened with Voldemort.

(I think I’m repeating myself.

Aaaah, okay.)

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You aren’t signing a contract when you talk to people to stay forever.

You are allowed to take a step back and change your mind based on their behaviour and chutiyapan.

(Definitely repeating myself, I remember saying this.

Anyway.)

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You should learn to asess the relationship whenever there are problems.

Understand the dynamics with that person.

In every relationship, there are good conversations and bad conversations.

It’s like a ratio.

When the good conversations are more. It’s okay to trash and unsee the bad.

Like focus and amplify the good and throw the bad outside the window.

But when the bad conversations are more. It’s naturally going to overpower the good and the good gets tainted with the bad too.

When that happens I take a step back.

And decide if it needs a break, distance or should I let go of this person all together because it’s not working out.

Sometimes things just don’t work because you won’t be compatible with each other.

It might not be because one is person is bad and the other is good.

It’s aa basic as the wavelength doesn’t match and the vibe is off.

And I’m not interested in continuously translating my soul.

Also,

I’ve noticed people tend to act on misunderstandings and cause intentional harm.

That’s where the whole problem lies.

The best way to deal with misunderstandings is to ask for a clarification.

That’s what I do.

But I’ve come to realise that sometimes people hurt you intentionally.

There will be no misunderstandings.

In this case, I see the pattern.

What have I noticed so far from the interactions and the energy of this person.

Even when someone is angry and says something in anger.

You need to look for patterns.

Does this person have anger issues or this person is reacting based on something that’s going on in his life.

Most people don’t mean the things they say out of anger, like me.

I say things in anger to my parents sometimes, but I don’t mean it at all.

Let’s ignore what happened when I was crazy.

So yeah, as I was saying.

But sometimes people are dickheads and they have extreme anger issues.

So I don’t engage with them more than necessary.

That’s all.

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But also,

When I love that person, it’s totally different because I love people in my close circle unconditionally.

There are in my close circle for a reason, so yeah.

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I know my parents are dysfunctional.

But it’s because of the life they’ve had and their experiences.

Also, we lived in poverty.

I do notice that when my parents see something for the first time, they reject the idea and get overworked about it.

But once they gain experience, they are regular with it.

We were in the spotlight which created a lot of shit.

They’ve come a long way and shown a lot of growth and change.

I know they are trying.

I’ve forgiven them for the past.

Sometimes it’s really difficult, but we’re making it work.

I still feel I would be able to love and appreciate them better when I move out.

So waiting for that.

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Sometimes people don’t reciprocate my energy and efforts.

I take a step back in this case too.

Friendship might not be transactional where you except something in return for what you do.

But when I feel like all I’m doing is give give and give.

And not getting anything in return.

I don’t want to be a part of it.

Also, when I take a step back and disappear, I never hear from them again.

Even after everything that I gave.

Says a lot in itself.

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