rachana rajan <3

A conversation between people is supposed to be a dialogue.

Not a monologue and information/trauma dumping by one person.

Also,

the first time you meet someone, please don’t dump your history and trauma on that person.

It’s the first time you are speaking to them,

that person literally doesn’t have the ability or mindspace to take in the information overload.

They might not validate or acknowledge it, the way you expect them to either because you are literally a stranger.

You need to build a relationship with people and learn the art of holding a conversation.

Go with the flow and be patient.

Your history, likes, dislikes and other information can be discovered along the way as the conversations unfold.

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So many people I’ve spoken to lack this knowledge.

Most of the men I’ve spoken to in the past, to consider dating sucked big time.

It was a nightmare.

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Also,

I don’t agree with the fact that friends are just someone who are there to listen to your problems.

No, that’s the job of a therapist.

Friendship is much more than this.

I take a lot of time to call someone my friend.

I notice and observe everything.

Their values, character, beliefs, every damn thing.

My threshold is really high.

Once someone crosses it, there’s no going back.

My love ends there.

I either love them as a human being from a distance or forget about their existence.

I end things at the first sign of disrespect and malevolence.

If a person doesn’t have the ability to apologize after hurting me, they have no place in my life.

Sometimes even a apology can’t fix things.

I don’t have place in my life for people who act on misunderstandings as well.

Because I don’t.

I value people who place things on the table and clarify.

If I get the feeling I’m the one who always gives, gives and gives.

The friendship ends there.

I don’t have place for one sided friendships.

I don’t understand low maintenance friendships as well.

Because no one is literally that busy, it’s a true fact.

I don’t have place for on and off friendships too.

People who are there when it’s rosey and disappear at the first sign of problem.

Later come back again after the problem has passed, to fuck the good times and highs.

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I’ve seen everything in life.

That’s why I enjoy and love solitude, than fill my time with people just for the sake of it.

I value my energy, time, efforts and love a lot. It’s precious and valuable.

I don’t give it away to anyone and everyone who comes my way.

Also,

since I have my family and close ones with me, I’m not lonely.

I’m happy and content with my life.

I don’t feel the need for anyone.

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