I’ve said it before, saying it again differently.
(Because I see things online)
When someone does not want to be your friend or in a relationship with you, it isn’t betrayal.
Betrayal cuts deeper than this.
We feel what we feel.
You can’t force feelings.
Don’t force it if it’s not happening.
Take a step back and maintain the peace and harmony.
Whenever I say this what I mean is,
Don’t speak things into existence that is not true, like slander.
I know it might be tempting to shit talk about the people who hurt you and you can have a truck load of negative thoughts about them as well.
It’s normal and valid to feel this way.
But it’s NOT normal and valid to act on those thoughts.
Work on them and heal.
Don’t materialise it.
Talk to someone about it.
Everyone you speak to are not signing a contract to stay forever.
People are allowed to change their mind, take a step back, disengage and outgrow.
People come and go.
That’s the way of life.
When someone does you dirty, now that’s a whole other story.
But slandering someone’s name because you are bitter or acting on negative thoughts, that’s a no.
This is what I meant by maintaining peace and harmony.
When something isn’t working, it’s not working.
Take a step back.
Move on with your life and mind your own business.
You are going to meet hundreds of people in your life.
It’s not the end of the world.
If there was a connection, fight for it.
If it still doesn’t work, well at least you tried.
You’ll have that satisfaction.
I feel connection happens only when both of you are interested and invested in the relationship/friendship.
Otherwise it isn’t a connection, it was just one sided shit.
And not worth breaking your head over it.
It will hurt, yes.
But you’ll survive.
There are so many things in this world that are more painful, you have no idea.
This is coming from someone who has been through those painful things.
You are important and special.
Your value isn’t dependent on someone else.
But so are everyone else in this world, everyone are important and special too.
The world does not revolve around anyone or cater to someone’s beck and call.
You can’t have unrealistic expectations from people.
Something unfair happened to you?
It happens to every single person in this world.
Everyone has shit going on.
Not the same shit maybe.
But definitely a shit.
I know it’s unfair and you didn’t deserve it.
We are all in this together.
You are not the only one experiencing shit.
When something unfair happens, it doesn’t mean you’ll cause harm to innocent people.
Everyone are going through shit too, it isn’t just you.
So don’t do it.
That’s all I have to say.
Goodnight.
rachana rajan <3 