rachana rajan <3

I’ve been texting since so many years.

I’ve spoken to a lot of people.

A lot.

I’ve been ghosted and I’ve ghosted too.

I’m okay with ghosting and being ghosted.

Initially when I started texting and when someone would ghost me,

I would worry about them if they were okay.

I used to double text, triple text, call etc.

Now I’m an adult and let’s be real here.

I know how this works.

When someone ghosts me now,

I delete, block, unfollow and forget they existed.

Because everyone has their phone on them 247.

I’ve spoken to men who were so damn busy and in a really good position in their company and they used to text and call me like they have nothing to worry about.

So if someone is ghosting you,

it’s intentional.

No one is that busy, it’s all about priorities.

But there are also times when they would be in a state where they cannot respond.

At that time, we can give benefit of the doubt.

So I give it some time.

Depending on who it is and how close that person is.

If they don’t get back to me.

Delete, unfollow, block and forget.

In a close relationship/friendship,

A little bit of ghosting here and there happens.

But if someone doesn’t care enough.

I don’t either.

This is called as self respect and self love.

My value doesn’t depend on someone else.

I say thank you and move on.

When I have an issue with someone,

If I care, I confront.

If I don’t care, I ghost.

I’d rather have a few really close friends who care and prioritize me than many casual friendships who don’t care much and I’m not in the priority.

P.S. This rule doesn’t apply to someone whom I love unconditionally. (Ginny and my family)

With everyone else, it does.