When Ginny left me 3 years ago, everyone asked me to move on.
Every single person I spoke to.
People have been asking me to move on these last 3 years.
Till last year august.
Up until she said she wants to marry me.
I didn’t move on because I was in love with her.
Also because I didn’t feel like it.
It never felt right with anyone else.
The world was rolling their eyes and calling me crazy.
Which reminds me of a quote by Ted Mosby,
“Actually, there is a word for that.
It’s love.
I’m in love with her, okay?
If you’re looking for the word that means caring for someone beyond all rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you, its love!
And when you love someone you just, you…you don’t stop.
Ever.
Even when people roll their eyes or call you crazy.
Even then. Especially then.
You just- you don’t give up because if I could give up… If I could just, you know, take the whole world’s advice and- and move on and find someone else, that wouldn’t be love.
That would be… That would be some other disposable thing that is not worth fighting for.
But that is not what this is.”
I sent this to Ginny twice when we were apart.
Because this is exactly how I felt.
I’m glad that I didn’t listen to the world and I didn’t move on.
I’m alive today because I love her.
So yeah that’s why I always say,
When someone gives you advice, listen to them but don’t follow it blindly.
Because you are the one living and experiencing your life.
Not your friends, family, therapist, people you know and don’t know or me.
No one knows how you feel better than you.
People can feel for you when you communicate it.
But at the end of the day,
it’s just you.
You have to take responsibility for your life and live with the choices you make.
So you should do what feels right to you.
You’ll have no regrets.
rachana rajan <3 