Flaws are different from being shady.
Every single person has flaws. There’s no such thing as being perfect.
For example,
Dad is mostly grumpy.
While he is working on a task he gets easily annoyed.
Ginny has flaws too.
I noticed it while we were speaking 3 years ago. I’m not going to speak about it here though.
I have flaws as well.
I get anxious and I can’t do a lot of things that regular people can easily. I have my limitations and problems.
Everyone has flaws.
When we are close, we learn each other’s flaws and love them anyway.
Flaws don’t make us love each other less but rather that’s one of the things that brings us closer as humans when we are vulnerable about it.
We can work on them and grow together.
If you ask me, it should not be considered as a red flag.
Now the question is what is a red flag?
According to me,
a reg flag is dependent on the person’s values and shade and malicious intent and games.
When our values don’t align,
when the person doesn’t know how to handle conflicts in a healthy way,
the person doesn’t have the ability to take accountability and apologise,
when the person plays stupid games when there’s a misunderstanding instead of addressing it like an adult.
Etc.
That’s when I bolt.
Also, when the person’s energy is off and my intuition tells me no.
You cannot bolt every time you see someone’s flaws because then you’ll probably end up alone.
Because there’s no such thing as perfect.
No one is going to be 100% compatible with you.
It’s the ratio.
(I don’t know if you remember this? I’ve spoken about ratio before)
rachana rajan <3 