Note.

I’m a feminist and I strongly disagree with patriarchy.

But in today’s time, patriarchy isn’t dominant.

It still exists, yes.

It exists in countries and places that haven’t progressed mentally and still have a backward approach to life.

But if you are privileged to live in the city,

you will agree with me that most people are feminists and patriarchy is almost non-existent.

You can notice traces of it only in the older generations and men with backward thinking.

What I have observed is that,

Women gang up and hate all men in the name of feminism and they feel it’s okay to insult them and make fun even.

And men quietly take this stereotypical behaviour because of the men who are patriarchal.

Even if they personally aren’t.

Women even give names like “performative men” which is true even for women.

There are in fact performative women as well.

But no one really says it out loud.

Because using such words for women isn’t appropriate.

But it’s appropriate when it comes to men?

My question here is,

Why are women giving a hard time to men and treating them poorly for the mistakes of men in the past and the men who are still patriarchal?

Why are they stereotyped?

People are getting so carried away with feminism that they are forgetting men’s rights and forgetting the fact that even men have feelings.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a feminist too.

Father is a patriarchal malayali man and I hate him for it.

I hate him when he disrespects mother.

But I’ve been lucky to meet men who are good, who restored my faith in humanity.

It’s not men’s fault that it’s only women who can bear a child and get their periods.

Men are in no way responsible for it.

I know men in the past gave women a hard time and were patriarchal and we can never forgive them.

I also know that it still very much exists in places that are backward.

But stereotyping is wrong.

I’m just thinking out loud.

You can correct me if I’m wrong.

I’m open to it.