Note.

I’ve said it before saying it again.

If you want to be in a relationship with someone or be friends with someone,

You have to get to know each other, interact, spend time etc.

Until and unless people do this,

they cannot decide if they want to be friends or want to be in a relationship with you.

People are not signing a contract with you to stay forever.

Unless it’s your spouse, no one is signing a contract to stay forever.

So when we feel it’s not working out for whatever reason it might be.

People are allowed to take a step back and disengage.

This is not betrayal and they are not your enemy.

When people disengage, it’s not because they don’t see your value.

You are valuable and they do see it.

Don’t associate value into this.

It just means you both are not compatible.

Sometimes priorities change or they won’t be in the mindspace to continue.

Or it might not feel right for them.

Just because you are talking to someone doesn’t mean you have to say yes to a relationship or friendship.

And be with them forever.

You are allowed to disengage at any given moment.

Until and unless you feel a sense of connection, rapport, trust and safety etc.

It doesn’t really go anywhere.

Also,

Millions of people in this world man.

Everyone in this world isn’t for everyone.

It’s not possible for me to like everyone in this world and I know everyone doesn’t like me either.

I’m completely fine with it.

I don’t take things personally.

People keep coming and going.

And that’s okay.

Learn to take a step back and move on with your life.

You are going to meet hundreds of people in your life.

Focus on finding your tribe.

Nurture and cherish the connections you have.

Love the people who love you.

Love others from a distance.

You can love people from a distance even if you don’t necessarily like some of them or even agree with them.

It’s possible to still stand in solidarity.

Because all of us are in the same team.

If you know when to take a step back and step forward, it’s going to help you.

We cannot choose our family but we are the ones who choose our found family.

Our close circle is sacred.

It’s a temple of safety, trust, love, care etc.

You should protect this space.

There should be a bouncer outside who decides whom you allow into this space.

Whenever I speak to someone new, my one leg is always outside the door.

This is how I function.