Note.

Mom didn’t mean it when she made the petrol statement.

She wasn’t thinking before speaking.

I was constantly pressurising her by confronting her behaviour.

Hence she had a meltdown.

She doesn’t have the ability to handle too much stress.

She breaks under pressure easily.

She is old now.

She is from a generation where people don’t understand the concept of boundaries properly.

Even have the mindspace to work through conflicts.

Also,

She didn’t like what I said about her brother.

And the trauma that she dealt with all her life.

Made her the way she is.

Which is quite understandable.

I understand her because no matter how many times my sister and I fight, I still love her and continue speaking to her.

It’s the same for my mother and her brother.

But if I don’t treat my nieces with love and respect and behave shitty all the time.

They will not like me or want to engage with me.

Because that relationship is different.

Mother needs to understand this fact as well.

Whatever beef is between me and my relatives is valid and legit.

Because of the way they treated me.

Whatever the reasons it might be.

And I don’t have unconditional love for them because they are just my fucking relatives.

There’s literally nothing between us.

My personal life is different.

My mother’s personal life is different.

Once your child grows up and gains maturity.

They are entitled to make their own personal choices and have their own personal preferences.

And we can still have love and respect for each other even if we don’t necessarily like the same people.