When I started texting Teni in December last year.
He was good to me initially.
He even said that.
I might eventually stop talking to him and block him.
Like always.
That kinda made me feel sorry and see his humanness.
And made me try harder to make the friendship work.
That’s why I stayed longer, even when I saw the red flags and I let things slide.
When he opened up to me initially.
I was ready to help him with advices.
But his male ego didn’t let him take advice from me.
Even though I’m good at it.
Even if he was repeating my words and advices that I write here on a regular basis.
He just didn’t want to take it on a personal front.
Because ego.
That incident kinda shut him off.
After that the rest of the friendship was just him repeating.
“Don’t emotionally rape me.”
Meaning.
“Please don’t give me advice.”
It was a vulgar language that I didn’t approve of.
Also.
When I pointed out that.
He might be doing well professionally but his personal life is not going well.
He got defensive and offended.
He said.
“I’m happy with my life.”
“This is how I am.”
“If you are trying to make me a better man you’re barking up the wrong tree.”
I see so many things wrong with this behaviour.
Even if I was trying to be friends.
I expect my friends to keep growing and work on themselves.
This kinda behaviour was off putting.
He works 247.
During his free time he’s always on Instagram.
He is cheating on his wife.
His idea of enjoyment is drinking, watching TV.
He doesn’t move his body or exercise.
Because he said no time.
He refuses to grow.
He has built a camp on whatever his life is.
And refuses to move or change.
He needs to work on himself a lot.
I don’t think he’s a lost cause.
I hope he works on himself.
I hope Jane asks him his side of the story.
Before driving to conclusions.
Underneath all that behaviour. I did see good in him.
I know at the end of the day.
He is a good person.
He just needs to see that for himself.
He needs to work on himself.
He has a lot of good qualities.
It’s not fair for me to highlight just the flaws.
He is really funny and a word slut.
He is good.
Now that my emotions of betrayal have subsided.
I wish him well from a distance.
God bless him.
rachana rajan <3 