If you want to know a person’s true character.
Tell them NO.
Tell them NO multiple times.
And watch like a hawk.
Anyone can pretend to be good when things are going smoothly.
But when there is friction.
The facade will drop.
That’s how you know who that person truly is.
Before you marry someone.
Date longer than the honeymoon period.
Tell them NO multiple times.
Watch how they handle rejection, failure, conflict, boundaries, misunderstandings, emotions, feelings, thoughts.
Etc.
Also.
There’s no such thing as perfect.
Everyone fucks up from time to time.
But what do they do after they fuck up.
That’s what matters.
That’s what tells you everything that you need to know.
Study, observe and notice every single thing.
These are basic life skills.
Marriage is not a walk through a fresh sunflower meadow.
Anyone who doesn’t have the ability to handle these basic things.
Is not qualified to get married.
I said what I said.
rachana rajan <3 